Why is God letting me suffer?
Answered from the commentary of James McBroom, J. N. Darby, E. J. Thomas and 7 others
God allows suffering for several reasons: sometimes to correct sin, sometimes to prevent it or break our will, and sometimes to test and strengthen faith or bring us nearer to Himself; suffering does not always mean that the sufferer has done wrong. In a world made miserable by sin, people also suffer through its ordinary consequences and through the evil others do, while God remains above it and permits no trial beyond His control. Often the reason is not clear to us, but the authors say God uses these trials for our good, to form us in the likeness of Christ and to bring blessing and glory. So you may bring your sorrow to God and ask for help; He is not indifferent, and His comfort and grace sustain those who suffer, even when the trial is not removed.
Verses: Job 1:20, Job 1:21, Job 1:22, Job 2:9, Job 2:10, Job 3:1, Job 3:2, Job 3:3, Job 3:4, Job 3:5, Job 3:6, Job 3:7, Job 3:8, Job 3:9, Job 3:10, Job 3:11, Job 3:12, Job 3:13, Job 3:14, Job 3:15, Job 3:16, Job 3:17, Job 3:18, Job 3:19, Job 3:20, Job 3:21, Job 3:22, Job 3:23, Job 3:24, Job 3:25, Job 3:26, Job 38:1, Psalms 13:1, Psalms 13:2, Psalms 13:3, Psalms 13:4, Psalms 13:5, Psalms 13:6, Psalms 22:1, Psalms 22:2, Psalms 22:3, Psalms 22:4, Psalms 22:5, Psalms 22:6, Psalms 22:7, Psalms 22:8, Psalms 22:9, Psalms 22:10, Psalms 22:11, Psalms 22:12, Psalms 22:13, Psalms 22:14, Psalms 22:15, Psalms 22:16, Psalms 22:17, Psalms 22:18, Psalms 22:19, Psalms 22:20, Psalms 22:21, Psalms 22:22, Psalms 22:23, Psalms 22:24, Psalms 34:18, Psalms 42:5, Psalms 42:6, Psalms 42:7, Psalms 42:8, Psalms 42:9, Psalms 42:10, Psalms 42:11, Psalms 73:1, Psalms 73:2, Psalms 73:3, Psalms 73:4, Psalms 73:5, Psalms 73:6, Psalms 73:7, Psalms 73:8, Psalms 73:9, Psalms 73:10, Psalms 73:11, Psalms 73:12, Psalms 73:13, Psalms 73:14, Psalms 73:15, Psalms 73:16, Psalms 73:17, Psalms 73:18, Psalms 73:19, Psalms 73:20, Psalms 73:21, Psalms 73:22, Psalms 73:23, Psalms 73:24, Psalms 73:25, Psalms 73:26, Psalms 73:27, Psalms 73:28, Psalms 119:67, Psalms 119:71, Psalms 119:75, Isaiah 43:1, Isaiah 43:2, Isaiah 43:3, Lamentations 3:19, Lamentations 3:20, Lamentations 3:21, Lamentations 3:22, Lamentations 3:23, Lamentations 3:24, Lamentations 3:25, Lamentations 3:26, Lamentations 3:27, Lamentations 3:28, Lamentations 3:29, Lamentations 3:30, Lamentations 3:31, Lamentations 3:32, Lamentations 3:33, Habakkuk 1:2, Habakkuk 1:3, Habakkuk 1:4, Habakkuk 3:17, Habakkuk 3:18, Habakkuk 3:19, Matthew 5:10, Matthew 5:11, Matthew 5:12, Matthew 26:36, Matthew 26:37, Matthew 26:38, Matthew 26:39, Matthew 26:40, Matthew 26:41, Matthew 26:42, Matthew 26:43, Matthew 26:44, Matthew 26:45, Matthew 26:46, Matthew 27:46, Luke 13:1, Luke 13:2, Luke 13:3, Luke 13:4, Luke 13:5, John 9:1, John 9:2, John 9:3, John 11:32, John 11:33, John 11:34, John 11:35, John 11:36, John 16:33, Romans 5:3, Romans 5:4, Romans 5:5, Romans 8:18, Romans 8:28, Romans 8:35, Romans 8:36, Romans 8:37, Romans 8:38, Romans 8:39, Romans 12:12, 2 Corinthians 1:3, 2 Corinthians 1:4, 2 Corinthians 1:5, 2 Corinthians 1:6, 2 Corinthians 1:7, 2 Corinthians 4:7, 2 Corinthians 4:8, 2 Corinthians 4:9, 2 Corinthians 4:10, 2 Corinthians 4:11, 2 Corinthians 4:12, 2 Corinthians 4:13, 2 Corinthians 4:14, 2 Corinthians 4:15, 2 Corinthians 4:16, 2 Corinthians 4:17, 2 Corinthians 4:18, 2 Corinthians 12:7, 2 Corinthians 12:8, 2 Corinthians 12:9, 2 Corinthians 12:10, Philippians 1:29, Philippians 4:11, Philippians 4:12, Philippians 4:13, 2 Timothy 3:12, Hebrews 4:14, Hebrews 4:15, Hebrews 4:16, Hebrews 12:5, Hebrews 12:6, Hebrews 12:7, Hebrews 12:8, Hebrews 12:9, Hebrews 12:10, Hebrews 12:11, James 1:2, James 1:3, James 1:4, James 5:10, James 5:11, 1 Peter 1:6, 1 Peter 1:7, 1 Peter 1:8, 1 Peter 1:9, 1 Peter 4:12, 1 Peter 4:13, 1 Peter 4:14, 1 Peter 4:15, 1 Peter 4:16, 1 Peter 4:17, 1 Peter 4:18, 1 Peter 4:19, Revelation 21:3, Revelation 21:4
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God does not cause the suffering to His own, but He allows it to happen, so that His servants can benefit from the experience (e.g. increase their faith), and also for His own glory. Two examples are: Job, whom Satan tested to the uttermost, see Job 1 & 2, and Peter, whom Satan desired to sift as wheat, Luke 22:31.
Peter might have said to the Lord, Thou canst hinder my being thus sifted, as Martha and Mary thought Jesus could have hindered the death of Lazarus; and, truly, He who can give the crown of life can shelter us; but He does not do so, that we may be tried. Satan desired to have Job to sift him like wheat, and God permitted him to do so; and this happens to us also. We often say within ourselves, Why has He dealt thus with me? Why has He put me in such or such a crucible? Ah, it is Satan who desired, and God who permitted it. Things often. occur which we cannot understand; such things are intended to shew us what the flesh is.
Peter might have said to the Lord, Thou canst hinder my being thus sifted, as Martha and Mary thought Jesus could have hindered the death of Lazarus; and, truly, He who can give the crown of life can shelter us; but He does not do so, that we may be tried. Satan desired to have Job to sift him like wheat, and God permitted him to do so; and this happens to us also. We often say within ourselves, Why has He dealt thus with me? Why has He put me in such or such a crucible? Ah, it is Satan who desired, and God who permitted it. Things often. occur which we cannot understand; such things are intended to shew us what the flesh is.
In 1983 a famous Rabbi in the US, Harold Kushner, published a book about the problem of suffering. In it he suggested that we should not blame God for sufferings (which is right); then he goes on to say that God is good, but that He cannot help it when evil befalls His people (which, of course, is a wrong thesis). Perhaps we may remind ourselves at this point of Romans 8:28, where we see the very opposite of Kushner's claim. God not only allows adverse circumstances, He is even in full control and uses them to form believers in His school' (Rom. 5:3-5; Jam. 1:3). His ways ultimately, and surely lead to the fulfilment of His purpose, that we should be conformed to Christ, the Firstborn among many brethren (Rom. 8:29). Why do we have sufferings? Is it not also, to make us realize that we are living in a world which is in direct opposition to God's will? (cf. 1 Peter 2:15).
But there was something still more perplexing, for there were times in the lives of the most honoured servants and saints, when they were suffering, and being made to pass through the deepest trials when the wicked were prospering, and at their ease. This was, to the righteous, most baffling. The patriarch Job, who was perhaps the greatest sufferer in the Old Testament — but there were many others (James 5:10-11) — had to say: "Wherefore do the wicked live, become old, yea, are mighty in power? Their seed is established in their sight with them, and their offspring before their eyes. Their houses are safe from fear, neither is the rod of God upon them. …" (See Job 21:7-13). So also with David "I have seen the wicked in great power, and spreading himself like a green bay tree" (Psalm 37:35). Such things these men could not reconcile with the justice of God's moral government. In His revealed will, the order seemed to be joy and happiness for the good, but sorrow and suffering for the evil. The law had laid this down very fully and clearly, and it had been said, "He that will love life and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it" (1 Peter 3:10-11; also Psalm 34:12). Yet those who sought to live according to this were kept in suffering. Think of a man like Job of whom Jehovah could say to Satan, "Hast thou considered My servant Job, that there is none like him in the earth," yet his suffering were prodigious. It is just at this point that we may learn the wonders of God's wisdom, and see the richest and choicest of His dealings with His children in the world. The wicked may prosper for a brief season, as we have seen, but in a moment their candle goes out, and then for them it is the blackness of darkness for eternity. The righteous may suffer in a world where sin and death are permitted, but, this, in the hand of a Father, is educative in view of forming the character, and making them morally Christ like in view of future glory.
The standard of God's holy government is fixed and sure, and can never be lowered. What a man sows, that shall he reap, and punishment for sin is judicially and divinely certain, but to limit God in His dealings with His children to that is to dishonour Him, and to miss the richest and choicest of His designs. In point of fact, it displaces Him, leading to the conception of Him as an arbitrary Being, as the book of Job shews, and, coming to men, it turns the moral order of society upside down, and is accountable for the cruellest sufferings inflicted by men upon their fellows. In Job we have a man whose sufferings might well melt the hardest heart: yet, his friends (and they were men of a very high standard of life), through missing this important link in the chain of God's dealings with His servant, were turned into the cruellest and bitterest of foes. Why? Because, by limiting God's dealings to the punishment of sin, and missing the educative and promotive character of the sufferings, they could only conclude that such a great sufferer must have been a great sinner. What a solemn position these good men were found in. Condemning Job, by attempting ignorantly to justify God, instead of sympathising with the needy, they fixed upon him the cruellest charges. The position became a kind of deadlock, and those who came to help were found to hurt. The basis of their argument was wrong, their premises were false, and making a wrong start, both as to God and to Job, instead of the good that the circumstances called for, the very worst that was in them came out. It was doubtless thoughts like these that led the poet to write that "Man was made to mourn," for indeed "Man's inhumanity to man makes countless thousands mourn." Like the ecclesiastical tyranny of the dark ages of so-called "Church History," these men belied their messages, and were turned into despots of the inquisition. Thinking they were serving God by treating an unbroken sinner in faithfulness, they went all the length to recover him, and like many to-day, who conclude that THEY are the testimony, with hearts steeled against every human and tender feeling, persecute to the death those who may be like Job in the crucible of suffering, but, like him also, may be more in the thoughts and sympathies of heaven than themselves.
Yes, God in infinite and tender goodness can, and does, bring His children through sorrow and suffering. He did it with Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Joseph, Moses, David and others, and He is doing it to-day. He may chasten for sin, as corrective, or He may discipline the soul as seeing danger ahead, which surely is preventive, and, as in the case of Job, He may put us through a good deal of trial, that we may learn ourselves, and enter better into the knowledge of Him — which is surely promotive.
While God uses sickness, accidents, and other trying situations to chasten His children, we must never conclude that God is disciplining us only because of sin. (This was the mistake Job's friends made regarding his suffering.) The Lord often uses sufferings and trials to draw us closer to Him. He may seek to strengthen our faith by putting us in situations where we have to depend upon Him.
When others are suffering, it is never wise to think that God is chastening them for wrong doing. We are not to judge; that's God's business. However, when we are being chastened personally, we should ask God whether He intends it as correction, training for usefulness, or character development. If we do not get in touch with Him about His purpose, and cooperate with Him, we will not gain the happiness and peace He intends for us. Remember, God's dealings are a reality, and we will suffer great loss if we pass over them lightly. On the other hand, they will contribute greatly to our peace and happiness if we take them seriously. We can brighten our testimony for Him by cheerfully accepting our trials.
The question has been often asked, Why does God allow the people on whom He has set His love to suffer in this way? and the answer is simple. It is because He loves them. There may be, there are, other reasons, but this is the chief. Whom the Lord loveth He chasteneth, and if the heart wander chastening is necessary. The wise man tells us, "By sorrow the heart is made better," and experience teaches us the truth of this. How readily will evil attach itself to the best of us! but in the furnace of affliction the dross is separated from the purer metal, and consumed. Moreover, when we endure chastening, God deals with us as with sons; and every trial which visits us, were we but patient under it, would be fruitful in blessing to our souls. True, the experience of passing through the trial is not pleasant; it would be no trial if it were; but a morning of joy succeeds the night of sorrow, and in the quiet after-time we say with David, "It is good for me that I have been afflicted."
Down the ages, God has often allowed His own to be evilly entreated, and it is not always possible for us to understand why He should allow wicked men to persecute and slay His saints and His servants. We do know that God allows these things for the purifying of His people, and that all His actions towards His own are in the perfection of His love and wisdom; and even if wicked men seem to prosper, and the righteous are put to grief, yet the day is surely coming when, at the judgment seat of Christ, we shall understand as we cannot now, the ways of God, which are past finding out.
We are short in Christian intelligence if we do not know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to those that are called according to purpose. God often sends trouble as chastening for the good of His children. Sometimes as in 1 Cor. 11 it is because of positive sin; but they totally mistake who suppose that it is restricted to that. Heb. 12 puts it on ground quite independent of so sorrowful an occasion, and treats it as flowing from His Fatherly love, and for profit, that we might be partakers of His holiness. It is as much or more to hinder sin as in consequence of its indulgence. It often is a trial of faith and an honour from the Lord, as the apostles so well knew, and many a simple saint in no such prominence. For the disciples as such are called through many tribulations to enter into the kingdom of God.
There are other trials which have their root in unfaithfulness. God permits such, but does not directly send them, and surely controls and guides to a gracious result, for His mercy endureth for over. Such trials become rods in His chastening hand; but when God sends trial to a faithful saint it is for the purpose of proving faith, which is more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, and of giving further lessons in the school of faith. The fruitful branch is purged that it may bring forth more fruit. More fruit is God's object. Hidden things may be in the heart of the faithful unknown and therefore unjudged. The trial is sent to disclose the hidden thing that it may be purged away. Not all trials are chastisements. We should gravely err if we judged every suffering saint to be under discipline through failure. Where there is faithfulness we often see what appears to be heaviest trials, but in truth it is for the display of the sustaining power of grace that others may see and learn.
Verses
- Job 1:20–2220And Job rose up, and rent his mantle, and shaved his head, and fell down on the ground, and worshipped; 21and he said, Naked came I out of my mother's womb, and naked shall I return thither Jehovah gave, and Jehovah hath taken away; blessed be the name of Jehovah! 22In all this Job sinned not, nor ascribed anything unseemly to God.
- Job 2:9–109And his wife said to him, Dost thou still remain firm in thine integrity? curse God and die. 10But he said to her, Thou speakest as one of the foolish women speaketh. We have also received good from God, and should we not receive evil? In all this Job did not sin with his lips.
- Job 3:1–261After this, Job opened his mouth and cursed his day. 2And Job answered and said, 3Let the day perish in which I was born, and the night that said, There is a man child conceived. 4That day — let it be darkness, let not +God care for it from above, neither let light shine upon it 5Let darkness and the shadow of death claim it; let clouds dwell upon it; let darkeners of the day terrify it. 6That night — let gloom seize upon it; let it not rejoice among the days of the year; let it not come into the number of the months. 7Behold, let that night be barren; let no joyful sound come therein; 8Let them curse it that curse the day, who are ready to rouse Leviathan; 9Let the stars of its twilight be dark; let it wait for light, and have none, neither let it see the eyelids of the dawn 10Because it shut not up the doors of the womb that bore me, and hid not trouble from mine eyes. 11Wherefore did I not die from the womb, — come forth from the belly and expire? 12Why did the knees meet me? and wherefore the breasts, that I should suck? 13For now should I have lain down and been quiet; I should have slept then had I been at rest, 14With kings and counsellors of the earth, who build desolate places for themselves, 15Or with princes who had gold, who filled their houses with silver; 16Or as a hidden untimely birth I had not been; as infants that have not seen the light. 17There the wicked cease from troubling; and there the wearied are at rest. 18The prisoners together are at ease; they hear not the voice of the taskmaster. 19The small and great are there, and the bondman freed from his master. 20Wherefore is light given to him that is in trouble, and life to those bitter of soul, 21Who long for death, and it [cometh] not, and dig for it more than for hidden treasures; 22Who rejoice even exultingly and are glad when they find the grave? — 23To the man whose way is hidden, and whom +God hath hedged in? 24For my sighing cometh before my bread, and my groanings are poured out like the waters. 25For I feared a fear, and it hath come upon me, and that which I dreaded hath come to me. 26I was not in safety, neither had I quietness, neither was I at rest, and trouble came.