Why does God let me suffer so much?
Answered from the commentary of Alfred E. Bouter, An Outline of Sound Words, James McBroom and 9 others
God lets you suffer because suffering is part of a world under sin, and because He uses trials for the good of His children, in love and wisdom. Your suffering does not mean you are guilty of some particular sin: the authors most often describe affliction as discipline, training, or a means of drawing the soul nearer to God, and they warn against judging a sufferer as Job’s friends did. Through it, God may correct or prevent evil, break self-will, strengthen faith, deepen your knowledge of Him, and make you more like Christ. Some suffering comes through persecution or the wickedness of others, and some belongs to the common sorrows of this world; God allows it, but it remains under His hand and is not proof that He has abandoned you. The authors differ in emphasis: most explain a believer’s suffering as God’s loving discipline and formation, while some stress that suffering is also the consequence of sin in the world; they do not all claim to know the specific reason for a particular person’s suffering. Though you may not understand His purpose now, the Lord is with you in your sorrow, and He gives comfort and grace to bear it.
Verses: Job 1:20, Job 1:21, Job 1:22, Job 2:9, Job 2:10, Job 3:11, Job 3:12, Job 3:13, Job 3:14, Job 3:15, Job 3:16, Job 3:17, Job 3:18, Job 3:19, Job 3:20, Job 3:21, Job 3:22, Job 3:23, Job 3:24, Job 3:25, Job 3:26, Job 7:17, Job 7:18, Job 7:19, Job 7:20, Job 7:21, Job 10:1, Job 10:2, Job 10:3, Job 10:4, Job 10:5, Job 10:6, Job 10:7, Job 10:8, Job 10:9, Job 10:10, Job 10:11, Job 10:12, Job 10:13, Job 10:14, Job 10:15, Job 10:16, Job 10:17, Job 10:18, Job 10:19, Job 10:20, Job 10:21, Job 10:22, Job 13:15, Job 19:25, Job 19:26, Job 19:27, Job 23:8, Job 23:9, Job 23:10, Job 30:20, Job 30:21, Job 30:22, Job 30:23, Job 38:1, Psalms 13:1, Psalms 13:2, Psalms 13:3, Psalms 13:4, Psalms 13:5, Psalms 13:6, Psalms 22:1, Psalms 22:2, Psalms 22:3, Psalms 22:4, Psalms 22:5, Psalms 22:6, Psalms 22:7, Psalms 22:8, Psalms 22:9, Psalms 22:10, Psalms 22:11, Psalms 22:12, Psalms 22:13, Psalms 22:14, Psalms 22:15, Psalms 22:16, Psalms 22:17, Psalms 22:18, Psalms 22:19, Psalms 22:20, Psalms 22:21, Psalms 22:22, Psalms 22:23, Psalms 22:24, Psalms 22:25, Psalms 22:26, Psalms 22:27, Psalms 22:28, Psalms 22:29, Psalms 22:30, Psalms 22:31, Psalms 34:18, Psalms 34:19, Psalms 42:5, Psalms 42:6, Psalms 42:7, Psalms 42:8, Psalms 42:9, Psalms 42:10, Psalms 42:11, Psalms 73:16, Psalms 73:17, Psalms 73:18, Psalms 73:19, Psalms 73:20, Psalms 73:21, Psalms 73:22, Psalms 73:23, Psalms 73:24, Psalms 73:25, Psalms 73:26, Psalms 73:27, Psalms 73:28, Psalms 88:1, Psalms 88:2, Psalms 88:3, Psalms 88:4, Psalms 88:5, Psalms 88:6, Psalms 88:7, Psalms 88:8, Psalms 88:9, Psalms 88:10, Psalms 88:11, Psalms 88:12, Psalms 88:13, Psalms 88:14, Psalms 88:15, Psalms 88:16, Psalms 88:17, Psalms 88:18, Psalms 119:67, Psalms 119:68, Psalms 119:69, Psalms 119:70, Psalms 119:71, Psalms 119:72, Psalms 119:73, Psalms 119:74, Psalms 119:75, Psalms 147:3, Ecclesiastes 3:1, Ecclesiastes 3:2, Ecclesiastes 3:3, Ecclesiastes 3:4, Ecclesiastes 3:5, Ecclesiastes 3:6, Ecclesiastes 3:7, Ecclesiastes 3:8, Isaiah 43:1, Isaiah 43:2, Isaiah 43:3, Isaiah 53:3, Isaiah 53:4, Isaiah 53:5, Lamentations 3:19, Lamentations 3:20, Lamentations 3:21, Lamentations 3:22, Lamentations 3:23, Lamentations 3:24, Lamentations 3:25, Lamentations 3:26, Lamentations 3:27, Lamentations 3:28, Lamentations 3:29, Lamentations 3:30, Lamentations 3:31, Lamentations 3:32, Lamentations 3:33, Habakkuk 1:2, Habakkuk 1:3, Habakkuk 1:4, Habakkuk 3:17, Habakkuk 3:18, Habakkuk 3:19, Matthew 5:4, Matthew 5:10, Matthew 5:11, Matthew 5:12, Matthew 11:28, Matthew 11:29, Matthew 11:30, Matthew 26:36, Matthew 26:37, Matthew 26:38, Matthew 26:39, Matthew 26:40, Matthew 26:41, Matthew 26:42, Matthew 26:43, Matthew 26:44, Matthew 26:45, Matthew 26:46, Matthew 27:46, Luke 13:1, Luke 13:2, Luke 13:3, Luke 13:4, Luke 13:5, John 9:1, John 9:2, John 9:3, John 11:32, John 11:33, John 11:34, John 11:35, John 11:36, John 16:20, John 16:21, John 16:22, Romans 5:3, Romans 5:4, Romans 5:5, Romans 8:18, Romans 8:19, Romans 8:20, Romans 8:21, Romans 8:22, Romans 8:23, Romans 8:24, Romans 8:25, Romans 8:26, Romans 8:27, Romans 8:28, Romans 8:29, Romans 8:30, Romans 8:31, Romans 8:32, Romans 8:33, Romans 8:34, Romans 8:35, Romans 8:36, Romans 8:37, Romans 8:38, Romans 8:39, Romans 12:12, 1 Corinthians 10:13, 2 Corinthians 1:3, 2 Corinthians 1:4, 2 Corinthians 1:5, 2 Corinthians 4:7, 2 Corinthians 4:8, 2 Corinthians 4:9, 2 Corinthians 4:10, 2 Corinthians 4:11, 2 Corinthians 4:12, 2 Corinthians 4:13, 2 Corinthians 4:14, 2 Corinthians 4:15, 2 Corinthians 4:16, 2 Corinthians 4:17, 2 Corinthians 4:18, 2 Corinthians 12:7, 2 Corinthians 12:8, 2 Corinthians 12:9, 2 Corinthians 12:10, Philippians 1:29, Philippians 4:6, Philippians 4:7, Hebrews 4:15, Hebrews 4:16, Hebrews 12:5, Hebrews 12:6, Hebrews 12:7, Hebrews 12:8, Hebrews 12:9, Hebrews 12:10, Hebrews 12:11, James 1:2, James 1:3, James 1:4, James 5:10, James 5:11, 1 Peter 1:6, 1 Peter 1:7, 1 Peter 4:12, 1 Peter 4:13, 1 Peter 4:14, 1 Peter 4:15, 1 Peter 4:16, 1 Peter 4:17, 1 Peter 4:18, 1 Peter 4:19, Revelation 21:3, Revelation 21:4
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Yes, God in infinite and tender goodness can, and does, bring His children through sorrow and suffering. He did it with Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Joseph, Moses, David and others, and He is doing it to-day. He may chasten for sin, as corrective, or He may discipline the soul as seeing danger ahead, which surely is preventive, and, as in the case of Job, He may put us through a good deal of trial, that we may learn ourselves, and enter better into the knowledge of Him — which is surely promotive.
God does not cause the suffering to His own, but He allows it to happen, so that His servants can benefit from the experience (e.g. increase their faith), and also for His own glory. Two examples are: Job, whom Satan tested to the uttermost, see Job 1 & 2, and Peter, whom Satan desired to sift as wheat, Luke 22:31.
The question has been often asked, Why does God allow the people on whom He has set His love to suffer in this way? and the answer is simple. It is because He loves them. There may be, there are, other reasons, but this is the chief. Whom the Lord loveth He chasteneth, and if the heart wander chastening is necessary. The wise man tells us, "By sorrow the heart is made better," and experience teaches us the truth of this. How readily will evil attach itself to the best of us! but in the furnace of affliction the dross is separated from the purer metal, and consumed. Moreover, when we endure chastening, God deals with us as with sons; and every trial which visits us, were we but patient under it, would be fruitful in blessing to our souls. True, the experience of passing through the trial is not pleasant; it would be no trial if it were; but a morning of joy succeeds the night of sorrow, and in the quiet after-time we say with David, "It is good for me that I have been afflicted."
The problem handled in the book is the moral government of God: how to conciliate His righteousness with the sufferings, and even extreme sufferings, of a just and godly man? how to understand the permission of evil, in its worst form of malignant persecution, with His own good, and this before and apart from His revelation in Christ and by redemption? The books of Moses prepare the way for His government of a people, His own elect Israel, where all was to be manifest and a testimony before the world. Here it is His dealings with a soul before the true light shone, and the veil was rent, and sin condemned in the cross, along with the expression of exercises of heart and conscience under God's dealings. Now that we are reconciled to God by Christ's death and know ourselves to be in Christ before God, there is or ought to be a wholly new experience. But it is of the deepest interest and profit to see how the believer was enabled, not merely to walk uprightly when things were prosperous in an evil world but to confide in God spite of adversity and crushing affliction, and not only to submit to His will as chastening but to measure and abhor himself in dust and ashes before God. The beginning teaches that not Satan but God is the source of the action, the middle that He only and effectually carries forward the true lesson for the soul, the end that He is exceeding pitiful and of tender mercy. A whole long book devoted to the exercises of a soul in suffering, and he a Gentile, and this in the canon of the Jewish scriptures from the first! But it is not yet what some call the "mystery of the cross:" this was reserved for Christ.
p249 DEAR BROTHER, - I write a line, not having been able to see you in my very hasty visit, to sympathise with you in your present trial, quite feeling how real a one it is to you. I enter not only into the way this would exercise and naturally prey upon the mind in all its thoughts - "the multitude of thoughts within me," as the Spirit of God deigns to speak. It is a serious trial to the father of a family, occupied as you are, to be deprived of sight. When the outward trial of being thus rendered comparatively helpless, brings all the heart into exercise, the subjection to God's will, the humbling ourselves under His mighty hand and contentment with whatever lot He may assign us and besides the question of an humbled will, there often arise doubts practically of His love, an impugning of His wisdom and almost a preference to be out of His hands, what Elihu calls a choosing iniquity rather than affliction. I do not say that this has been produced in you at all. I speak of the trial and temptation when such a case arises, and I speak of it, dear brother, that you may be helped by the remembrance of our Father's love, and turn at once to Him, and the assurance of His love. Remember that God, even our God, has better thoughts for us than rest or a portion here. He is educating us for a blessed and eternal rest, free from evil and all that would cause it, and He is bent on the blessing of His children; and moreover He is bound by His holiness to purge us suitably (though most graciously) for the place He has called us to. How often He lets Satan do this painful work, and try and sift us as Job! But His hand and will are behind it all. He gives His saints up to Satan's hand to a certain point, but only so far as to bring the heart fully to a bearing before Himself, and enter into deep questions with it, breaking down its pride. But not only was the tempter absolutely limited in what he was to do to Job, but it was the Lord who first proposed his case to Satan. He had His own end in it, as we see: Job gets into blessing with a knowledge of himself and of God, incomparably beyond what he had before. In all these cases, therefore, though Satan may sift and try us by a thousand trials without and thoughts within, our business is to think on His hand and love who originates it all as to the ultimate purpose. By its being the enemy the soul is sifted in it, tempted to murmur. God could not do that: and what flesh is, is fully brought out to us, and there is a giving up of self, which enables us infinitely better to appreciate God.
(2) But though infinitely above man, and beyond his comprehension, God is not indifferent to His frail creatures, nor arbitrary in His dealings with them. When once the soul is subject to God, and has taken its true place, He can unfold His ways to it. As soon as it is ready to admit that God has some wise purpose in view, He will show that affliction is but one of the methods of God's dealings with men, and that it has a definite object. This, Elihu now proceeds to explain. So long as Job accuses, he gets no answer; let him submit and God will make all plain.
In 1983 a famous Rabbi in the US, Harold Kushner, published a book about the problem of suffering. In it he suggested that we should not blame God for sufferings (which is right); then he goes on to say that God is good, but that He cannot help it when evil befalls His people (which, of course, is a wrong thesis). Perhaps we may remind ourselves at this point of Romans 8:28, where we see the very opposite of Kushner's claim. God not only allows adverse circumstances, He is even in full control and uses them to form believers in His school' (Rom. 5:3-5; Jam. 1:3). His ways ultimately, and surely lead to the fulfilment of His purpose, that we should be conformed to Christ, the Firstborn among many brethren (Rom. 8:29). Why do we have sufferings? Is it not also, to make us realize that we are living in a world which is in direct opposition to God's will? (cf. 1 Peter 2:15).
Down the ages, God has often allowed His own to be evilly entreated, and it is not always possible for us to understand why He should allow wicked men to persecute and slay His saints and His servants. We do know that God allows these things for the purifying of His people, and that all His actions towards His own are in the perfection of His love and wisdom; and even if wicked men seem to prosper, and the righteous are put to grief, yet the day is surely coming when, at the judgment seat of Christ, we shall understand as we cannot now, the ways of God, which are past finding out.
His friends, though pious men, knew still less of God and of themselves than the afflicted and now complaining saint. They each and all come out in their own thoughts, farther from the truth God was teaching than Job; for they assume the adequacy of present results as the criterion of God's estimate of man. Now there is a providential government, which overrules evil, and which does good according to God's nature; but His word reveals only at the close righteousness governing, and later still righteousness dwelling when all things are made new. Meanwhile God makes all things work together for good to those that love Him, humbling them, pious though they be, with what they are, and giving delight in God and submission to Him. We thus learn ourselves as well as God.
In this we see not only the wisdom of God but His mercy also. Directly sin entered the world a baffling problem presented itself in the slaying of righteous Abel. Why should the godly suffer? If a man's life really pleases God, why should that pleasure not be indicated by special good being his in this life? There is, of course, the alternative problem Why should the ungodly prosper) — and this is dealt with in Psalm 73. But long before the days of the Psalmists God saw fit in His mercy to solve the enigma for us by permitting extreme disaster to come upon Job, and then causing the story to be recorded and preserved in an inspired writing. The solution was given as soon as "the oracles of God" began to appear.
Verses
- Job 1:20–2220And Job rose up, and rent his mantle, and shaved his head, and fell down on the ground, and worshipped; 21and he said, Naked came I out of my mother's womb, and naked shall I return thither Jehovah gave, and Jehovah hath taken away; blessed be the name of Jehovah! 22In all this Job sinned not, nor ascribed anything unseemly to God.
- Job 2:9–109And his wife said to him, Dost thou still remain firm in thine integrity? curse God and die. 10But he said to her, Thou speakest as one of the foolish women speaketh. We have also received good from God, and should we not receive evil? In all this Job did not sin with his lips.
- Job 3:11–2611Wherefore did I not die from the womb, — come forth from the belly and expire? 12Why did the knees meet me? and wherefore the breasts, that I should suck? 13For now should I have lain down and been quiet; I should have slept then had I been at rest, 14With kings and counsellors of the earth, who build desolate places for themselves, 15Or with princes who had gold, who filled their houses with silver; 16Or as a hidden untimely birth I had not been; as infants that have not seen the light. 17There the wicked cease from troubling; and there the wearied are at rest. 18The prisoners together are at ease; they hear not the voice of the taskmaster. 19The small and great are there, and the bondman freed from his master. 20Wherefore is light given to him that is in trouble, and life to those bitter of soul, 21Who long for death, and it [cometh] not, and dig for it more than for hidden treasures; 22Who rejoice even exultingly and are glad when they find the grave? — 23To the man whose way is hidden, and whom +God hath hedged in? 24For my sighing cometh before my bread, and my groanings are poured out like the waters. 25For I feared a fear, and it hath come upon me, and that which I dreaded hath come to me. 26I was not in safety, neither had I quietness, neither was I at rest, and trouble came.