They said to them, “We cannot do this thing, to give our sister to one who is uncircumcised, for that would be a disgrace to us.
Genesis 34:14 · ESVView all translations

Hamor has just asked for Dinah and proposed that the two families intermarry. Jacob's sons refuse in the language of a people set apart — but their words hide a plan, and the sign of God's covenant is about to become a bargaining chip.

Words of Faithfulness, Motive of Revenge

Their answer was deceitful from the start. Commentators read the whole speech as a trap laid under religious words:

But the sons of Jacob were far from honourable in the way they answered. No doubt Jacob did not suspect their motives at all. But it was with cruel deceit that they told Shechem and Hamor their terms. They would agree to Hamor's suggestion only if all the males of the land accepted circumcision. They even promised that, if the men did this, they would live together as one people and be willing to intermarry with the local people there.

L. M. Grant

The brothers' own family history exposes the excuse:

Not the smallest thought or wish had they for inviting the Shechemites into the covenant. It was the lowest treachery, meant to trap and massacre them. Their pride and revenge ignored God as it did their father. Shechem was guilty of a great wrong; but Dinah too was in fault. Their own mothers and their grandmother were daughters of uncircumcised men. And no godly or sensitive reluctance showed in their own marriages. They set the condition as a lying, cowardly excuse, so they could carry their resentment as far as it could go.

William Kelly

What They Were Trading Away

The brothers call the match a disgrace to them. Yet circumcision carried a meaning of its own, and that is what they sold:

In crafty malice and greed for gain, Israel's sons hand over to these men God's title to the land. And the one who valued that title so little that he based his claim on another's rights would hardly hesitate to trade circumcision away for treasure in the world. Circumcision was the reproach of Christ, separation from the world of the ungodly, the seal of faith, the sign of God's inheritance.

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A Fence Already Pulled Down

The brothers speak as though a wall still stood between their family and the people of the land. It did not. Their father had taken it down himself by settling at Shechem:

In self-will a man was killed there, and a fence thrown down. But Jacob himself had dug down God's fence first. The call of God had raised a wall between the clean and the unclean, between the circumcised and the Gentile. Jacob himself, in spirit, had broken that wall down when he settled as a citizen or landowner on his purchased estate at Shechem. And Simeon and Levi may complete this, as soon afterwards as they please.

J. G. Bellett

The same writer turns the verse's own word back on the speakers:

What we see here is an uncircumcised Jacob, not circumcised Shechemites.

J. G. Bellett

Cruelty Dressed as Holiness

The brothers made their demand in God's name, so the crime that followed carried a second offence:

They plot together and deceive, as religious bigotry always does. Every genuinely religious person will join Jacob in disowning them. The innocent suffer with the guilty in these cursed crusades — the innocent ox along with the guilty Shechem — though Shechem was not half as bad as they were. The worst of this crime is that they do it in the name of God, religious order and separation. So they make thoughtless people hate religion. In this way they manage to wrong the world and the church at the same time.

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The Offer to Be "One People"

Both sides aim at the same outcome: no difference between the two peoples. The same pull is still at work today:

Hamor also promised to give Jacob many things. He suggested that they might be one people, live in the land and trade, and marry together. Just like the world of today; they want Christians to be one with them — no difference. Christians, be careful! The Lord says, "Go out from their midst, and be separate from them" (2 Cor. 6:17). The world says, "We may be one." The Lord says, "Let everyone who names the name of the Lord depart from iniquity" (2 Tim. 2:19).

G C Willis

Summary

- Cause — Jacob pulled the fence of separation down himself when he settled at Shechem. His sons' fine words defended a boundary the family had already left.

- Pretext — "We cannot do this thing" was a lying, cowardly excuse. The brothers had no wish to bring anyone into the covenant. They wanted a trap.

- Barter — Circumcision was the seal of faith and the sign of separation from the ungodly. Here the brothers trade it away for revenge and gain.

- Cover — The worst part was doing it in the name of God and separation. That wrongs the world and God's people at once.

- Call — The world keeps saying, "let us be one, no difference." God keeps calling His people to come out and be separate.

Reviewed by Orion on September 17, 2026