And they said to him, “If you will be a servant to this people today and serve them, and speak good words to them when you answer them, then they will be your servants forever.”
1 Kings 12:7 · ESVView all translations

Solomon's son has just taken the throne. The people's first move is to ask for relief from the heavy load his father laid on them. Solomon's old advisers answer with a rule that turns kingship upside down: hold the people by serving them.

Rule by Serving

One writer sets their answer beside the words of Jesus:

Rehoboam consults the old men who had stood before Solomon to drink at the source of wisdom. Their counsel is the counsel of Jesus to His disciples: "Let the greatest among you become as the youngest, and the leader as one who serves" (Luke 22:26).

H. L. Rossier

Another writer names the old temptation of rulers, and what real rule looks like:

From the earliest times it has been the curse of kings that they used their position for themselves, for their own ease or selfish ambition, rather than for serving the people. The principle, "whoever would be first among you must be slave of all," seems to have a twofold meaning. First, perhaps, it shows that any thought of self-importance only makes it necessary for a person to be brought low. But on the other hand, in a scene where the beloved sheep of Christ are attacked on every side, the best proof of a spirit of rule is to serve them. So He, the true King, could say in the fullest way, "I am among you as the one who serves."

Samuel Ridout

What "Good Words" Means

One writer matches each part of that advice to Romans 15:

Rehoboam is counselled by the old men, who are rich in experience, that all will be well if he will "be good to this people and please them and speak good words to them" (2 Chron. 10:7). Does this not carry our thoughts to Romans 15:1-4? In the first verse we have the kindness that bears with "the failings of the weak" instead of putting heavy yokes on them. In verses 2 and 3 we have pleasing one another for their good, to build them up, instead of pleasing ourselves. In verse 4 we have the "good words" of Scripture for our comfort and hope.

Hamilton Smith

Wisdom, or Only Good Politics?

Commentators differ on how high to rate this advice. One writer finds real prudence in it, but not faith:

It was not the noblest ground, it is true. It was not the ground that would have left him in both liberty and responsibility... it ought to have been the ground, if he would be a servant of Jehovah — if he would serve Jehovah by watching over the best interests of Jehovah's people. But they said, according to their measure, "If you will be a servant to this people this day... they will be your servants forever." It was prudence, it was good policy. I could not say there was faith in it, but there was good policy in it, as far as that went.

William Kelly

Why He Refused It

Rehoboam had a real chance to hold the nation together:

He might have calmed the anger caused by the forced labour his father demanded. He had only to listen humbly to the aged men who had been his father's honoured counsellors. They knew the temper of the people well from long experience. And in asking for their burdens to be lightened, the people were only doing what any people not reduced to slavery might have asked. Had the new king granted their reasonable request... they would, as the old ministers said, have been his loyal subjects forever. But he abandoned their wise counsel.

C Knapp

Force Never Wins the Heart

Rehoboam refused the elders' way. One writer turns the same warning on anyone who has to deal with the faults of others:

The whip and the scourge may be righteous, but there is no winning the heart of man with these... How many brothers have been driven away for good! They might have been won back to God and to us. But we hammered at the conscience only, with the heart ungained — with the heart, I may say, almost unsought. We have not overcome evil, because we have not overcome it with good. We have readily taken the judge's chair, and have got back judgment; but the Master's lowly work we have done little of.

Frederick W Grant

Summary

- Serve first. The elders' terms are a chain: be a servant, serve them, answer them, speak good words — and only then does loyalty follow.

- Serve, and you rule. Stooping to serve is the best proof of a spirit of rule, and the King Himself was among His people as the one who serves.

- Good words are specific. They mean bearing with the weak, building others up instead of pleasing yourself, and comfort drawn from Scripture.

- Good advice is not always faith. Commentators differ: one sets it beside the words of Jesus, another finds prudence in it but not faith.

- Force loses hearts. Rehoboam took the harsher counsel and lost the loyal subjects he could have had; severity may be righteous and still win no hearts.

Reviewed by Orion on September 18, 2026