The elder to [the] elect lady and her children, whom *I* love in truth, and not *I* only but also all who have known the truth,
No other letter in the New Testament is like this one. It goes to a woman and her family, from a man who signs himself only "the elder." That opening line raises three questions. Who was this lady? Why does the writer choose such a modest title? And why is love here bound to truth?
Her name never appears in the letter. One writer sees kindness in that silence.
Every careful reader of Scripture should find it remarkable that we have an apostolic letter openly addressed to a lady and her children. In the Third Epistle John names the man he writes to. But in the Second Epistle before us he speaks of the lady simply as such, without any mention of her name. In this we may see a delicate fitness. The letter no doubt met her need, yet it spared her needless pain and publicity. Yet the letter itself is inspired and of the greatest value, for God's people then and at all times.
No name appears, so readers have long guessed. One writer lists the main options and rejects the most popular one.
The Second Epistle of John is addressed to "the elect lady" (Greek eklekte kyria). There has been much speculation over this greeting. Was it the simple greeting of a Christian widow, or of a lady with an unbelieving husband, or was it simply her name? Or was it, as various researchers have assumed — probably incorrectly — the greeting of a local church?
The writer had every right to open with his apostolic title. He chose the lower one.
"The elder," says the apostle. So he steps down from the first place in the church of God, a place he had every right to fill. But love naturally takes the more excellent way, and here the Holy Spirit inspired it for the special need.
He does not address her by rank or wealth. His one word points to God's own choice.
He does not slight her position, but what both of them valued was the title of divine grace, not what she owed to providence. She was elect of God, one chosen in Christ by and for God Himself. God had chosen her out of all her natural connections, and the apostle delights to see that God brought her, even on earth, into new and divine ones.
The phrase "whom I love in truth" is not a warm flourish. It names both the source of the affection and its boundary.
The truth formed the love John had for this godly saint and her children, and the truth set its limits — if we can speak of limits when the subject is infinite. That truth is the revelation of God in Christ. Outside this blessed circle the apostle's heart did not, and could not, flow, so far as the Holy Spirit controlled him. We see this at once when John adds, "but also all who know the truth." Every heart that cherishes the truth must love those who are also under its power.
One writer compares these words with how John greets Gaius, the man he writes to in his next letter.
Notice the moral fitness of the words chosen here. In writing to a lady, John does not use the words "well beloved" and "beloved" as he does to Gaius. It is certainly not that he loved her less, but John is careful to give no one any occasion for wrong impressions. Yet she is "the elect lady" whom he says he loves "in truth." Her being chosen by God is the reason for his love toward her, a love shared by all those who have known the truth.
This letter to a mother and her children matters far beyond one home. It matters because of what that home was doing when others gave way.
Very early in the church's history the citadel had fallen to the enemy, and the flag of truth had been hauled down and laid in the dust. Had it? Perhaps that was true of the majority, who had yielded to some other authority than the Lord's and had compromised the truth. But this lady and her children had not given in to the adversary. They were keeping the flag flying. When the church failed, the Christian household stepped into the breach. Its answer to the enemy was "No surrender!" and it held the fort for the Lord and the truth.
- Elder, not apostle — John sets aside the highest title in the church. Love takes the lower path when a special need calls for it.
- Elect, not named — John leaves her name out to spare her publicity. The title he gives her points to God's choice, not her social standing.
- Chosen out, brought in — God chose her out of her natural connections and placed her, even on earth, in new and divine ones.
- Loved in truth — the truth shapes this love and sets its bounds — the revelation of God in Christ. Everyone who knows that truth shares it.
- Holding the truth — commentators differ over who this lady was. They agree on what her household did: it refused to surrender the truth when many around it had.
for the truth's sake which abides in us and shall be with us to eternity.
John gives the reason for the love he has just spoken of. It rests on truth that lives inside believers and never leaves them. So what does it mean for truth to dwell in a person, and what does that do to our love?
The word "truth" carries this short letter. Even Christian affection rests on it.
In verses 1 and 2 John puts the strongest possible emphasis on truth. The letter itself tells us what we must do to defend the truth. The first thing we find is that truth is the foundation of every Christian relationship and affection, and truth is to govern them. The love that belongs to Christians is "in the truth", because it grows as the fruit of our having been born of God.
The phrase "because of the truth" names a cause, and a cause can be checked.
And this is how we judge it: "because of the truth that abides in us and will be with us forever." The apostle loved the lady and her children, but he loved them because of the truth. Where that was absent, there could be no divine love.
The truth that shapes this love also sets its limits.
John's love for this godly woman and her children was both formed and limited by the truth — by the revelation of God in Christ. Every heart that treasures the truth must love those who are also under its power. That love will show itself "because of the truth that abides in us and will be with us forever." Human affection springs from our favourites and preferences, and people often mistake it for divine love. A scripture like this gives the test and the correction we need.
Loving because of the truth cuts in two directions, and this letter takes up the sharper one.
That points in two directions. The love must be sincere, free from the favouritism that is so natural to the flesh. It must also refuse to tolerate evil, since truth and error can never agree. This letter states the second of these two points. The third letter deals with the first.
The verse says the truth is inside us and stays with us forever. Commentators tie the first half to the Spirit and the second to Christ Himself.
The Spirit who lives in us is the Spirit of truth, and so the truth lives in us. Forever we shall be with Christ, who is the Truth, and so the truth shall be with us forever. This truth lives in us because we have the Spirit of truth. It is meant to mark our character and find proper expression in us. Others should be able to see it, and to testify to it if that is needed.
The words "abides" and "forever" promise more than a long stay.
It is precious to see here that the truth dwells or abides in believers. It is not just an occasional visitor. And it abides with us forever. It is living and permanent, and there is no possibility of a child of God losing it.
There is a second kind of permanence here: not only in our hold on the truth, but in the truth itself.
The Spirit of truth will abide in us forever. His truth is not subject to the changing moods of time. It is unchangeable and unalterable. There is no development. It is not subject to an evolutionary process. The truth is "the faith that was once for all delivered to the saints" (Jude 3). This indwelling truth within the believer is the great preservative against error.
An indwelling truth is not a private possession. It shapes conduct.
Here we find another principle of life... that which dwells in us characterizes our walk. If Satan's lie lives in us, we are bound to walk in falsehood and crookedness in our dealings with God. When the Spirit of God puts truth in us (as we saw in 2 John 2), we shall walk in the truth, even while we walk in the middle of this crooked world. The walk of a Christian is to be light in the middle of darkness, and truth in the middle of error.
- Cause. Love here is not a mood but a response. John loved the lady and her children because of the truth. Where that cause is missing, there is no divine love.
- Indwelling. The truth dwells in believers by the Spirit of truth. It stays forever, because Christ, who is the Truth, is theirs forever.
- Permanent. Truth is a resident, not a visitor. It never changes, and a child of God cannot lose it.
- Test. Truth is the cause of love, so truth also tests it. It corrects affection built on personal favourites, and it keeps real love from tolerating evil.
- Visible. What lives inside shapes the walk outside. Truth in us gives light in the dark, and others can see it and testify to it.